I Chose to Be Homeless: Reflections on the Homeless Challenge

From October 10-12, I participated in the National Coalition for the Homeless’ Homeless Challenge. I spent 48 hours living on the streets disguised as an unhoused person—sleeping outside, panhandling, and walking blocks and blocks to access food, a bathroom, transportation, and other services.

Emily Kvalheim Homeless ChallengeOn our first night, my partner and I walked for hours in the rain. We slept in the rain with minimal coverage. My shoes and socks and waterproof jacket were soaked; my skin became like prunes. Despite the cardboard we collected, I shivered throughout the night, completely unprepared. I lay awake for hours. In the middle of the night, I got up, in need of a bathroom; I went to a fast food restaurant—like I have done in the past—but I was denied, even when I offered to purchase something. Shocked and discouraged, I walked to a fancy hotel, where I was given a key to the bathroom. For the first time that night, I felt like a human being.

The next day, I experienced this similar feeling of overwhelming gratitude when strangers helped me. I was allowed to sleep on the floor of a worship center because it was raining, and two hours of sleep at night is not enough to compensate for all of the walking we had to do. A kind volunteer at a feeding program gave me crackers, peanut butter, and cookies. One woman slowed down her car and offered us a ride and food. In the afternoon, four or five strangers reached into their wallets and gave me what they could. I made $9.43 while panhandling, and I was relieved to know that I could eat again that day. In the evening, I was welcomed by a sit-down restaurant’s owners, despite the disgust of the other customers. A $5.00 salad had never tasted so good.

Some people were less empathetic. I was kicked out of a fast food restaurant and into the rain on our second morning. Strangers sneered and laughed as they watched us. When we went to the library, I was sprayed with some sort of perfume (without my consent) due to the aroma I had acquired after not showering, applying deodorant, or brushing my teeth for three days.

I recorded the names of the businesses that treated me like a second-class citizen (as well as those that treated me as human). I wanted to expose them and take revenge. They made me feel angry and lonely because they could not see past my stench and my grime and my grimace. They were privileged enough to ignore me, and they did.

But what good would it do to retaliate? I, too, have not been compassionate enough, and I have allowed my prejudices to distort my view of the homeless. One woman, who sat across from me at a feeding program, talking to herself erratically, may have seemed strange to me before the Homeless Challenge. But when I really saw myself as her equal, and when I took the time to watch her get up and laugh as she danced to the music playing in the background, I thought she was beautiful. She had found her own happiness, amidst despair.

I met some pretty amazing people on the streets. Unlike me, they could not quit homelessness after 48 hours. They were not able to pick up their belongings, reach into their wallets, and take a taxi home. They did not get to shower or wash their clothes. They could not shut the door, turn out the lights, and climb under my pink sheets and blankets. They were left outside to sleep on the concrete, vulnerable, exposed, and ignored. They did not choose to be homeless, and I hope I will never really know how difficult it can be.

What I do know is that homelessness is a horrible situation. It is horrible after 24 hours, it is horrible after 48 hours, and I am guessing that it never really stops being horrible. No matter how many nice people and charities there are, no matter how appreciative I am of the people who helped me complete the Challenge, homelessness will always be horrible. We, as housed people, must do everything we can to eliminate homelessness and show the same compassion to those who helped and protected me on the streets.

One way you could help is by asking your family and friends to donate to the National Coalition for the Homeless, perhaps even through a fundraising page like mine. You might also consider hosting events for National Hunger and Homelessness Awareness Week 2013 (November 16-24) to raise awareness in your community. For more information, visit the NCH website.

No one should have to live the way that I did. Together we can end homelessness.

By Emily Kvalheim, NCH Intern and American University Class of 2015

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7 Responses to I Chose to Be Homeless: Reflections on the Homeless Challenge

  1. Leigh Rollins says:

    Dear Emily, Your story was so touching. Thank you for being so brave at such a young age. I can tell you I wouldn’t be able to do what you did. I did post your story to my FB page. I hope it brings you some more donations.


  2. markm8128 says:

    I am creating a page which documents the many brutal
    homeless camp closings in California:

    California Homelessness Reporter

    Please let me know if you hear of any more!

  3. Kathy Barbeire says:

    Hello Emily,

    First, I would like to say that I admire your compassion and your willingness to walk in someone else’s shoes. As I was reading your blog, I kept having this nagging feeling… And I couldn’t quite put my finger on it… Then it struck me… You chose to be homeless… But you chose to be the stereotype of what housed people imagine homeless people to be. Why?

    I’ve been homeless, and I’ve worked with the homeless for many years. Most homeless people are not the unwashed individuals sleeping in the homeless camps. Those are the most-recognized individuals, but they are not the majority. Most homeless people hide their homelessness.

    If you choose to respond to this challenge again, I hope you will take advantage of some of the services that are in place to serve the homeless. Your blog makes it sound like those services are non-existent… But they do exist. There are shelters, there are warming centers, there are shower and washing facilities.

    Yes, more can be done to address homelessness. However, I see many homeless advocates propagating a stereotype of what homelessness looks like and creating hyperbole to further their own personal pet projects. I think in the long-term, that is counterproductive to our cause. We will only find real solutions to homelessness when we see the real faces of homelessness and not what we imagine it to be.

    Thank you for your work. Please don’t lose your passion.

  4. anonymous says:

    I agree what you did was very compassionate and brave. I’ve been homeless and all the nearby shelters were full for months. I had a college degree from years previous and no relative to live with. I learned of “day drop-in” centers that wash your clothes while you wait and feed you breakfast and lunch, and they post employment opportunities on bulletin boards. Some had bible readings that were very encouraging. Yet it was difficult to impossible to obtain cash, and bus tokens were given out sparingly. I know how humiliating and difficult it is to beg for money. Now whenever I see a person begging for money, I will give them at least a few dollars so they can get out of the bad weather and have a meal at a fastfood place. If I have more, I’ll give more. This country has so much food and natural resources and unemployed strong people who could build housing for federal programs – not to mention the lack of jobs due to automation and overseas products; I don’t know why housing and food aren’t given away more freely.

  5. I do not choose to be homeless, simply out of luck. I want a place to live at in order to attend school. Thank you for you’re time.


  6. john dillon grindele says:

    It is sad to see some people that are so trapped in their own lives that they forget that we are all human, with our own struggles, dreams, ect. My name is dillon and I choose to be homeless. I have a job, and make about 1500 a month. I am a very rich homeless man, and I love it.I am a very poor man settled in a house or even a cheap appt. I am 19 years old, and dont plan to be this way forever, but allow me to elaborate on why I choose this lifestyle: I eat very well, I dress very well, and have very high confidence/ self esteem because of it. few people in my life know of my secret life. The mystery adds to the sense of adventure. I have a ton of money saved from living like this. I have learned many valuable life lessons. I have met many people and am very happy. I keep my clothes and hygenics in a couple lockers at my gym. I wash my clothes when I shower. I sleep in a comfy sleeping bag wearing a mosquito net to keeps away summer bugs. I keep a cooling pad that keeps me cool. I stay hydrated. I am in superb shape. I fish.I bike. I live a fairly simple life. Although this life is not for everyone, I believe that most people have become complacent in modern living. cable tv. society has an idea on how we are supposed to live and I act. if anyone has any questions on what its like to live like this email me at handdillon@gmail.com. God bless

  7. David H says:

    I feel empathy for the homeless. But some homeless are not victims. they are felons. my friend “Slemmer” is living out of his car. the reason? He stole $$ from his professional high paying job in reading PA. So that led to not qualifying for unemployment, which led to him getting evicted from 2 apartments, which led to him living in his car. The problem with a felony is no one wants to hire you. You have to restore your career. Maybe take a job that is beneath you as opposed to sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. If “Slemmer” took a job to pay his rent that was slightly beneath him, he would not be homeless living in his car asking his friends for $$ .

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